Thursday, March 28, 2013

The Wedding MESSAGE

Marriage is a GRAND ADVENTURE into the unknown.
Marriage takes us into parts of our Self so we can evolve and grow.
Marriage is a source of JOY as we share the ever-shifting ride of life.
Marriage is SACRED in that we choose to enter into a union
And dance with another throughout a season of our life or a lifetime.

My marriage to John was the greatest adventure of my life (so far!) so it is my honor to officiate the weddings of my nieces, Macy and Jessica.  Macy's wedding is only 5 days away so I have been sitting with what will be the wedding message.  To me, these are words I want to write on their hearts that they can carry with them throughout their journey together.  I have attended several weddings over the last few years where the ministers felt compelled to share the divorce rate and warn the couples that the love will leave and paint a picture of doing time together instead of entering into a grand adventure.  That kind of message is cringe worthy to me and made me want to stand up and shout:  WTF?!  This is a wedding celebration not doomsday!

One morning as I was reflecting on the wedding message for Macy and her fiance', Mark, a flock of morning doves also known as messenger pigeons landed on my patio.  Believing in signs, I looked up the symbolism:  They represent the LOVE of home and family.  They remind us to dwell in the possibilities as they accomplish the impossible again and again,  finding their way back home no matter how far they travel.  They huddle together in the storms with the entire community of birds to create a chosen family of various species.  This is all good stuff so I will weave this into the ceremony.

Mark and Macy are truly friends to each other and a core group.  They also love sports so the message may include THE TEAM, the 2 of them and all of the friends they have carefully picked and the family gathered who will stand with them whatever comes throughout their journey. There is a richness to
marriage, the one on one relationship; and we mustn't forget how friends and family add to this through our shared experiences with them.  When we connect with others and enjoy life with them, we take this back into our marriage, our homes and this creates an ever-expanding life.

MAKE IT GREAT!  has come to mind again and again.  Each day, committing to making life great no matter what comes, knowing they have choices in how they show up as a friend (to their self and to the other) and a partner who wants only good for the other; and understanding that making it great will include NOT so great moments and how we learn from this extracting lessons and wisdom.  Oh, and I cannot forget the healing balm of humor, finding our way back to laughter and play.

I only have a few minutes to write the wedding message on their hearts and I trust the exact words will flow in that moment.  My experience of marriage is summed up in the following:

Marriage is a GRAND ADVENTURE into the unknown.
Marriage takes us into parts of our Self so we can evolve and grow.
Marriage is a source of JOY as we share the ever-shifting ride of life.
Marriage is SACRED in that we choose to enter into a union
And dance with another throughout a season of our life or a lifetime.

And just like the lyrics form the Garth Brook's song The Dance:  I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end...I wouldn't have missed the dance.

2 comments:

  1. Nice post. I'v always dreamed of a beautiful wedding, even up to now. And reading wedding messages really gives me inspiration that I will soon have one. I really hope so.

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